Tuesday, October 23, 2012

~* Wanting To Be Needed *~

I think everyone wants to be needed, to feel like their very presence is important to someone else. I know I do, and I was lucky enough to have that wish satisfied yesterday.

The hubs and I had a good talk last night. He has fallen into a funk too, because he hasn't had a lot of time to get into the gym and he feels like he has gotten fat and sloppy. Just for the record, he isn't fat or sloppy-looking, but I completely understand how he feels. He told me that he feels like I am the one person he can depend on to make sure he gets into the gym regularly. Blew my mind.

I know it's my job to make sure other people get a good workout on a regular basis, but I never really thought about how I might have an impact on the hubs' workout schedule. Even when we go to the gym together, we never work out together, so I figured he would rather be on his own or with "the guys". I can't explain the awe I felt at hearing how important a push from me is. So, we decided on a plan- even if I've already worked out for the day, I'll stick around and do some extra cardio or something to make sure the hubs has no excuse for not getting to the gym regularly. And, I've learned (yet again) not to jump to conclusions- just because he's big and brawny doesn't mean he can't use a woman's strength every now and again.

Monday, October 22, 2012

~* Come On, Get Happy *~

That's what I have been telling myself all day. Come on, get happy.

I've been in a funk for a while, and I'm tired of it. The only thing I can control is how I look at things, so it's time to switch it up.  I realize I have a tendency of getting stuck on the negatives, and I lose sight of the positives. That's what I've been doing with my marriage. I can't expect good things to happen if all I'm looking for are the bad things. So, it's time to remind myself.

I have a damn sexy hubby. He has a steady job and a mode of transportation. He supports me, financially and emotionally. He loves me the best he can, and he does it even when I'm being a complete horrible bitch to him. He loves my cooking and he loves my job. He encourages me to be better at everything, but never tells me I'm not good enough. He loves our silly little dog. He has the biggest heart of anyone I've ever met. He's good at his job, and he will probably never know how proud I am of him. I have no doubt that if I had an emergency, he would drop everything and move heaven and hell to get to me. And I am fortunate enough to know that is a mutual feeling. We may argue and bicker and scream and give the silent treatment, but I believe that our marriage is rock solid. I have a partner, and maybe it's just my turn to pick up the slack. He'll do it for me when it's his turn. That's what partners do.
" Don't place your better days in the future."