Friday, December 28, 2012

~* List-Making *~

I had a good long talk with one of my clients yesterday. She's a therapist, and she was able to help me with a few things I'm going through and she pointed out a few things. This separation, if used correctly, will be a period of growth for me. I'm looking forward to that. She encouraged me to realize that there are things about myself- singly and in a relationship- that I'd like to change, but there are also things to like about myself. She also said that I should use this time to decide who I'd like to be and what I'd like to do in the future. So, I did what I always do. I made some lists.

List #1: Things I Like About Me

- my sense of humor
- my passion
- my dedication
- my domestic abilities
- my unwillingness to argue
- my intelligence
- my family-oriented-ness
- my organizational skills
- my ability to take care of myself
- my fairness
- my open-mindedness

List #2: Things I Want To Change About Me

- say "no" more
- stop being a doormat
- think before I speak during arguments
- argue less, period
- stop pushing buttons
- learn to share my space, my thoughts, and my life
- stop being such a control freak, but maintain boundaries
- be more decisive
- put myself first
- become more financially secure and stable

List #3: Things I Want To Do, Specifically In 2013

- clean out my closet (literally) and re-do my wardrobe
- get rid of anything with negative memories attached to them
- go to the beach
- check out the botanical gardens
- go dancing
- paint more
- spend as much time as I can with family
- treat myself at least once a month
- meet new people and solidify friendships
- say "yes" to new, interesting things
- help someone, somehow
- get my passport and plan a trip
- save up some money for a new(er) car
- save up some money, period
- be nicer and more approachable
- finish the certifications I'm working on

So, these are my lists. I think this next year is gonna be my year. Time to get to work, folks!

" Don't place your better days in the future."