Should you choose to accept the role of a GOOD milspouse, is as follows:
1) Stand by your man. Or woman. Don't fall prey to a Jody.
2) Be flexible. The only things certain in the military life are the things that have already happened.
3) But don't be a doormat. Once your soldier walks through the front door, you are partners. There is no rank in the home.
4) Learn things. Like how to cut the grass. Who to call when there is hail damage to your home or vehicle. How to cook- for 1, for 2, and for an entire battalion. Learn your way around post. And for God's sake, learn to call your MIL weekly. If your soldier has time for a phone call, you are probably first on the list, but your MIL deserves to know her kid is alive and kicking...er, shooting.
5) Live on your budget. Deployed or not. Steady pay does not necessarily equal awesome pay, and it won't always be tax-free. Anything could happen. I know your parents have been preaching it for years, but it's a good idea to have a little cushion. Just in case.
6) Have a life. Don't let the term "milspouse" define you. Make friends. Pursue hobbies. Continue your education. Get a job. Go sightseeing. Live.
7) Have a plan b. I know it sounds cold, but there is always a chance that you will be on the wrong end of bad news....which leads me to the last, but most important part of the MilSpouse Mission...
8) ALWAYS HOPE FOR THE BEST, BUT PREPARE FOR THE WORST.